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Learn to please the only person who really matters

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  Just about everything a Nice Guy does is consciously or unconsciously calculated to gain someone's approval or to avoid disapproval.  Nice Guys seek this external validation in just about every relationship and social situation, even from strangers and people they don't like. Nice Guys belive that they have to become what they thinks other people want them to be in order to be liked. By trying to please everyone, Nice Guys often end up pleasing no one — including themselves. SEEKING THE APPROVAL OF WOMEN Nice Guys interpret a woman's approval as the ultimate validation of their worth. Signs of a woman's approval can take the form of her desire to have sex, flirtatious behavior, a smile, a touch, or attentiveness.  At the other end of the spectrum, if a woman is depressed, in a bad mood, or angry, Nice Guys interpret these things to mean that she is not accepting or approving of them Consequences of seeking the approval of women Require that nice guys monitor the...
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MAKE YOUR NEEDS A PRIORITY

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 Nice Guys generally focus their attention on meeting everyone else's needs while trying to be "low maintenance" kinds of guys themselves He think that it is his needs that cause people to hurt him or abandon him. Typically Nice Guys respond to these inaccurate interpretations of their life events by developing a number of survival mechanisms. ● Trying to appear needless and wantless. As a result of these childhood survival mechanisms,  Nice Guys often believe it is a virtue to have few needs or wants.  Beneath this facade of needlessness and wantlessness, all Nice Guys are actually extremely needy. Consequently, when they go about trying to get their needs met, Nice Guys are frequently indirect, unclear, manipulative, and controlling ● Making it difficult for others to give to them. In addition to using ineffective strategies to get their needs met, Nice Guys are terrible receivers. Since getting their needs met contradicts their childhood paradigms, Nice Guys are extr...
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